Marriage is under attack. Satan knows that is one of God’s most cherished societal institutions (Matthew 19:4-6). He also knows that it is a Divine picture of God’s love for humanity (Ephesians 5:25-33). As a result, he has launched an all out blitz on the sacred union. As we see struggles with marriage amongst our own families and friends, we are reminded that the Adversary does not want wedded bliss to succeed. How can we survive his attacks? Scripture gives us four pieces of advice.
Immerse yourself in God’s Word.
When Solomon gave his son wisdom for avoiding adultery, he said, “My son, obey my words, and treasure my commands…She will keep you from a forbidden woman, a stranger with her flattering talk” (Proverbs 7:1-5). Using personification, Solomon portrayed God’s truth saving his son from moral and marital failure. If we are close to the Bible, we won’t likely get close to an adulterer or adulteress. When our hearts are filled with God’s truth, we will be less likely to entertain forbidden thoughts, and we will be more likely to love our spouse as God would have us love them (Psalm 119:11).
Stay away from snares.
Solomon said, “A sensible person sees danger and takes cover, but the inexperienced keep going and are punished” (Proverbs 22:3). Healthy and strong marriages are made up of people who are constantly on guard. If you don’t get close to the snares which can spoil your marriage, you are likely to succeed. Be on the lookout. Be vigilant. The enemy has a plethora of lies and diversion tactics. You must be swift to stomp out any distraction, whether it be a frivolous hobby, an inappropriate relationship, or a selfish attitude.
Enjoy your spouse.
Some marriages are stale, because spouses don’t delight in each other. Secretly and mentally, they desire the proverbial greener-grass of other marriages which they observe. Solomon instructed his son, saying, “Take pleasure in the wife of your youth” (Proverbs 5:18). After having been married to a thousand women, Solomon looked back and realized that it would have been best to find satisfaction in the one whom he married when he was young. Modern married folks can learn from the old sage. Enjoying our spouses through conversational, spiritual, recreational, emotional, and sexual bonding can create a seal that can’t be broken.
Remember the consequences of failure.
God’s paradigms and principles cannot be reversed. He has ordained the way in which His universe operates. When we go against His design, we are sure to suffer (Galatians 6:7-9). This is especially true for marriage. Since it is a sacred institution, God has guarded it with untold consequences. Is it any wonder that things like adultery, divorce, and unfaithfulness to one’s vows produce so much pain? God has hardwired disciplinary factors into the marriage covenant, because He wants it to succeed. He lovingly corrects us to gently push us towards His will (Hebrews 12:7-11). If you’re flirting with disaster, stop! Stout consequences await you if you don’t (Proverbs 6:32-33).